Since my eating choices have been rather ‘nonproductive’ the past three days, I decided that it would be helpful to stop obsessing about that, and start thinking about the good things I’m doing for myself and create a positive framework for my journey. [Skinny Daily Post]
It's true, no matter what behavior you are trying to change. Focus on the negative and you will always be able to justify returning to your old behavior.
If you are trying to stop smoking you have two choice. You can obsess about how much you miss smoking, or you can focus on how happy you are that you finally quit.
Want to stop overeating? Don't focus on how much you wish you could eat more. Or how much you miss your favorite foods. Focus on how good it feels not to be stuffed all the time. And how good it feels to have more control of your life. Or whatever it is about not overeating that turns you on.
For me it was easy to quit smoking. It was fairly easy to quit overeating. But starting an exercise routine was a different story.
Last spring I wanted to start weight lifting. I decided I would workout from 6am to 7am every morning. At first it was almost impossible to get out of bed and go down to the basement to workout. I'd had this experience every other time I ever tried to start an exercise routine, so I wasn't surprised.
I started to pay attention to what I was thinking about in the morning right after I woke up. I noticed that I woke up dreading my workout. I'd think about how sore I was going to be the next day. Or how tired I was going to be right after the workout. I would lay in bed forever just full of dread. And for the first two weeks about half the time I would talk myself out of my workout.
A few months before that I'd listened to a bunch of self-help audio books from Audible. I decided to apply some the tips that I'd heard. Every night before I went to bed I'd think about how much was looking forward to my workout. I thought about all the reasons I wanted to workout in the first place. I focused on the things I liked about working out, like the endorphin rush, the feeling of blood rushing through my veins, the extra energy I'd have all through the morning even if I was tired. I didn't make anything up. I truly enjoyed these aspects of exercise. I decided I would focus on the positive and see if it made a difference.
Sure enough. I started waking up excited about my workout. I'd pop out of bed and throw my clothes on. I'd bounce down to the basement and do my workout. I even got to the point where I missed my workout on the weekend. Sometimes I'd even throw in a workout on Saturday or Sunday because I just could wait until Monday to feel the rush.
Here are two self-help books that I highly recommend:
In fact, I think it is time for me to re-listen to both those books. There are still a lot of areas in my life that I tend to focus on the negative first. I know because my wife reminds me at least once a week